Monday, April 21, 2008



June 1929 - April 18, 2008

Grandma Helen passed away on Friday afternoon. We learned from the doctor that her stroke was massive - so massive that the swelling in her brain had caused irreversible damage that would make sustaining life impossible. What a blow that was to hear! At that point the family decided to invoke a DNR 'Do Not Resuscitate' order in the event that she went into another cardiac arrest or something - which the doctor felt was imminent. The doctor said at that time that he did not believe that she would last the day - even attached to the machines that were breathing and pumping her heart for her. Though if she did and time went on the next tough choice would be whether or not to remove her from the machines. However, true to Grandma's form, she saved all of us the difficulty of making that choice. Mid-afternoon on Friday she went into another cardiac arrest. Much of her family was at her bedside in her final moments.

It was sad to see a Grandma who was so vibrant and lively just a couple days before be gone in the blink of our eyes. But yet we know that is how Grandma would have wanted it. We know she is dancing on the streets of gold right now with her Maker! We've had some good conversations with the children as we envision what Grandma might be doing right now in heaven. That has really helped all of us keep perspective in the midst of our sadness.

Grandma's wake & funeral are scheduled for Thursday night and Friday morning so we have a busy week ahead of us. Pray for Robert as he helps the family with the details and as he prepares his eulogy speech for the funeral.

Thank you for your prayers, encouragement and other practical help (thanks babysitters!) - we are thankful to have a strong supportive bunch around us!

11 comments:

Laura said...

Just wanted to let you guys know we are thinking of you all. My condolences to the entire family on your loss. My great grandmother had the same kind of spunk and spirit and it was very sad when we had to let her go.

Mami Janine said...

So sorry for your loss. How are the kids taking it?

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Donna said...

Hi guys,

I am sorry to hear of your loss. I will be thinking and praying for you during this difficult week.

John, Patty & Tiffany said...
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John, Patty & Tiffany said...

Sorry to hear about your loss. You and your family will be in our prayers.

Jes said...

I am sorry you guys are having to go through this. It is never easy even when a life has been lived to the fullest. We'll be praying for you guys and the rest of the family during this time.

'Lil Hawk said...

Oh Holly, I am sad to hear the news, but joyful that she is in Heaven! We're hear for you guys - love you!

Boyacheks said...

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You guys are in my prayers.
Dios te bendiga
Jaime

Rick & Genece said...

Just a short message to let you know how much your whole family is in our thoughts and prayers. May God lift Robert up during his eulogy deliverance during her service, and may He be of comfort to your family.

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Connie said...

I can tell just by looking at that photo of Robert & his Grandma that she was a lively, lovely woman, and that they loved each other a lot. I'm so glad he had her. We had a speaker in church who spoke about the broken heart of God. His definition of Grief was "emotional pain which is directly proportional to the degree of intimacy and loss." He's right. When we love someone like that, it hurts to lose them, but what a treasure.